I enjoyed
this week’s reading very much, which mainly focuses on depicting marriage and
love from different angles and perspectives. I think that they provoke deeper
thoughts inside me and grant me some new insights:
First of all,
I wish to talk about a toxic marriage motif in Murakami Haruki’s The Iceman Man
and Yukiko Motoya’s Straw husband. In my opinion, the Ice Man story can be
classified into horror novel class, and it is about an ice man husband, who
robbed away every single warmth and joy from his wife unintentionally, and made
his wife an ice woman as himself. This story reminds me of a saying, which
goes: “if someone does not love you as you expected, it does not mean that
he/she does not love you”. And Biologically speaking, everyone has different
body languages and distinct ways to show love. We can undoubtedly make the
point that the Ice Man does love his wife, who is our protagonist. And it is
assured that they once loved each other deeply and profoundly, disregarding all
the disagreement surrounding them. Nonetheless, they are people living in
different worlds, who wants a love that the other could not accurately
expressed. This crucial point serves the main reason for their tragic end.The
wife can bear with the Ice man’s coldness, yet she still needs certain amount
of tangible warmth and regular connection with the society to maintain her
life; On the other hand, the Ice man has secluded himself from the outside
world, and is rejected by the whole Tokyo society, therefore, does not
particularly need love, which follows that he cannot show love in a consoling
manner. So, it goes along with the passage of time that fissure should
certainly crack between their gradually toxic relationship. In other words, although
they love each other, their love cannot communicate and thus not reciprocal and
equal, which irretrievably turns their happy marriage into a toxic and heavy
bond, such that they both became cold physically and psychologically, lose hope
totally, and became people who only live in the past. The wife unfortunately
lost herself in the end , and even her sorrow is frozen into ice… From which, I
conclude that this ice man story might intend to show what disaster a toxic
marriage might bring. And this shares a common ground with Motoya’s Straw
husband, which depicts a frightening story that because of the straw husband's
overly obsession with his new car and his picky attitude towards his wife
Tomoko, Tomoko has thought of kill him by flames and regretted the marriage.
Which again, shows how trivial quarrels could become huge problem through
mutual failure to forgive between husband and wife.
Besides, in
addition to what states above, I wish to add two other angles to view
Murakami’s ice man story: firstly, it can also be viewed as a story, which
talks about people, who refuse to change and immerse in the past, would only
earn a life as cold and dull as an ice cube; Secondly, it might also be
interpreted in the light that the story itself serves as a satire, which
criticizes the lack of liveliness of the contemporary Japanese society. (I got
these two insights after reading some book reviews online, so they are not
totally original).
What’s more,
I also wish to briefly talk about another motif in the other stories, which is
the braveness and boldness of a woman’s love. For instance, in the Dojoji
story, Kiyohime chased behind her monk lover Anchin and transformed into a
snake, which leads to Anchin’s destruction at last. And in the greengrocer’s
daughter tale, our female protagonist burns a house in order to see her samurai
lover again, which condemned her to punishment and her lover into a monk. From
the first glance to either of these two tales, they are tragic and troubling.
But I want to make a point that they somehow show Japanese woman in a quite
different light.In stereotypical view, Japanese woman are conceived as
graceful, obedient, and weak (somehow) in novels, such as in the Madame
Butterfly. In other words, an image similar to “a damsel in distress” image in
the west. However, in these couple of stories that we read, we could see
Japanese women fearlessly pursue their love although their passion consumes
them to ashes, which surprises me and mesmerizes me. And somehow they are also
self-destructive in their love.
Last but not
least, I also want to point out a recurring motif that takes place in the
Dojoji story, which echoes in world literature. It is the motif of crossing the
river for one’s love, which also happens in the Ancient Greek Leander and Hero
story, and the South Asian tragic love story Sohni Mahiwal, thus provokes me to
think that they might have a same origin or some sort connection while
literature circulates the world.